A woman who dreams of being a housewife sparked a heated debate after she shared her desire to be ‘looked after’ by a man.
Posting anonymously on Mumsnet, the British woman explained that being a housewife in a marriage with a dominant man would make her feel ‘safe and secure’.
‘I’d be happy to be a housewife and have no say in finances, not work etc,’ she wrote. ‘I like it when a man is stronger than me, when he is an alpha male.’
The post divided opinion, with dozens of users warning the woman that she sounded like a ‘doormat’. However others agreed with her viewpoint and reassured the woman there is nothing wrong with wanting to be looked after.
A British woman has sparked a discussion about the role of a woman in relationships, after admitting she would prefer to rely on a man emotionally, physically and financially (file image)
The woman explained on Mumsnet that admitting to wanting to be a housewife feels like she’s letting down the women who’ve fought for equality
Sharing her controversial aspirations, the woman wrote: ‘I like being looked after by a man. Physically, emotionally, financially. It makes me feel safe and secure.
‘I like being the ‘damsel in distress’ and I’m happy to be rescued by a man. For example if I broke down on the motorway and a man helps me change a tyre.
‘Not controlling, but dominant. I like that that there are differences between the genders and being seen as the fairer and, dare I say it, weaker sex.’
A flood of responses blasted the admission as they warned being a housewife can be a vulnerable position and some labelled the woman ‘childish’.
One person wrote: ‘The trouble with being a doormat/ trophy wife is that you’l often attract controlling men. Added to that in the even of separation you’ll probably get nothing, unless you bear his children, in which case you’ll get a lot of money from him.
‘Doesn’t make you sound very nice. It’s ladies like you who make normal women feel angry. Women have fought for decades against this female dependency on men.’
Another said: ‘Sounds like you’d be very easy to take advantage of and you’d be very vulnerable. The kind of man who would be attracted to such a wet personality wouldn’t appeal to me at all.
‘What would you do when he ran off with someone younger and sexier with a bit more about them? You’d have no money, no skills, no life experience. ‘
Most responses to the post blasted the woman as they explained how being reliant on your spouse can be risky
A third added: ‘It’s a lovely fantasy, it’s almost like remaining a child – knowing that all the grown up work like keeping a roof the head of my family, is someone else’s responsibility. The problem is that much of the time it is a fantasy and absolving yourself of responsibility also takes away independence and agency and leaves you very, very vulnerable. Not just to to the extremes of domestic abuse or the death or a spouse but the more mundane like incompetence or laziness.’
Others argued the woman’s goal of being a housewife shouldn’t be judged, admitting they would also love to be looked after by a man.
‘I think it is your choice and nobody else’s business. I have a stressful job, work full time, take care of the finances and do most of the cooking. I would love to be looked after. You go for it, if it makes you happy,’ wrote one.
Another said: ‘OP, I am completely with you. One of the many things I came to loathe about XH is that he expected me to be so sodding competent. He thought this was feminism.
‘I didn’t want to be competent. I know I’m competent. I can plumb a sink in FFS. But I didn’t want to do any of that stuff. I wanted to be looked after.’
Others urged the woman to make her own decision, admitting they would also like to be looked after by their partner