A couple have revealed how they managed to communicate with their babies using hypnosis while they were in utero.
Daniel, 38, and Nini Tolson, 39, who are both business coaches, split their time between Sydney and Taipei and turned to this method when they almost lost their first child.
Nini’s pregnancy with their daughter Nakita was a ‘rollercoaster ride’.
‘We came close to losing Nakita three times, Nini was bleeding a lot during the pregnancy and was constantly sick,’ Daniel told FEMAIL.
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Daniel Tolson, 38, and Nini Tolson, 39, both business coaches, turned to hypnosis when they almost lost their first child, Nakita
Nini had just come off the back of three major knee reconstructions after an accident whilst she was working on an aircraft, leaving her with a permanent disability along with two and a half years of physical rehabilitation.
During those two and a half years, she also suffered depression and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).
‘When we learned that she was pregnant we were on top of the world! I was away working in Kuala Lumper but over the following six months, things went from bad to worse,’ Daniel said.
‘Nini was made redundant from her job in Dubai at the fifth month of the pregnancy and at the sixth month mark she was forced to leave Dubai and had to return home to Taiwan without me.’
‘We came close to losing Nakita three times, Nini was bleeding a lot during the pregnancy and was constantly sick,’ Daniel told FEMAIL
They were separated for the following three months as at the time Daniel couldn’t take paternity leave from his job as he had used all of his holidays to help Nini during her recovery.
This meant he had to make a choice: Be next to Nini for the birth of Nakita or be away working somewhere 40,000 feet in the air as cabin crew.
‘For me, family comes first, so I resigned from my job, I gave up everything which I loved, and moved from Dubai to Taiwan,’ he said.
‘These are the reasons why hypnosis has been so important. I wanted my daughter to be comfortable in the womb whilst she went through all of that with us.’
‘When we learned that she was pregnant we were on top of the world! I was away working in Kuala Lumper but over the following six months, things went from bad to worse,’ Daniel said
Daniel’s conversations with their children both started as soon as they knew Nini was pregnant and he would use a pendulum to do so.
He explained that the baby in utero is pre-linguistic, it cannot communicate consciously through words but Daniel and Nini believe it can communicate non-verbally.
‘Mothers intuitively know this, an example is when mummy eats a certain food the baby can get excited, when mummy is sick or emotionally drained the baby will not move,’ he said.
‘As we communicate to our babies verbally, asking them questions, the pendulum picks up their response through micro muscle movements in the mother’s body (the person holding the pendulum) that identifies the babies responses and makes the communication visible through the sway of the pendulum.
‘This is a very unique and powerful form of intelligence that can be learned.’
They were separated for the following three months as at the time Daniel couldn’t take paternity leave from his job as he had used all of his holidays to help Nini during her recovery
‘For me, family comes first, so I resigned from my job, I gave up everything which I loved, and moved from Dubai to Taiwan,’ he said
Daniel said he feels like their relationships with both Nakita and Caesar started very early thanks to the use of this technique.
‘We started to understand what they liked and what they didn’t like and we would accommodate those likes and dislikes into everything we did,’ Daniel said.
‘By the time they were both born, we had hundreds of interactions and forms of communication over the previous seven to nine months, when Nini was pregnant with Caesar, we had Nakita asking question to Caesar via the pendulum.’
Once both children were born Nini and Daniel kept the conversations going.
They would talk to them and build rapport with them by using the pendulum whilst they were asleep, especially in the early weeks and months after birth.
Daniel’s conversations with their children both started as soon as they knew Nini was pregnant and he would use a pendulum to do so
Daniel believes this is what has helped his children be well-rounded, engaging and confident individuals.
‘Nakita is very emotionally intelligent, she can communicate her feelings, she knows the difference between anger and sadness, between loss of a loved one and the loss of an opportunity,’ he said.
‘She is good at regulating her emotions. When she has a meltdown she sends herself to her room to chill out. She understands fear and the importance of facing fears.
‘Nakita also practices affirmations, which is a form of self-hypnosis which she now teaches her brother Caesar.’
Daniel explained that their son Caesar is very aware of other people’s emotions.
During the loss of their grandmother this year, he would cuddle Nini whilst she was crying.
He explained that the baby in utero is pre-linguistic, it cannot communicate consciously through words but Daniel and Nini believe it can communicate non-verbally
Although during both pregnancies there were a lot of things out of Nini and Daniel’s control they said they managed to at least have control over communication.
Daniel explained that he didn’t want their daughter to feel isolated or stressed because of what was happening in their lives.
‘By the time I arrived back in Taiwan the pregnancy was not what they show in a Hollywood movie, Nini was always exhausted, and then when it came to the birth Nini was in labour for over 24 hours, her pain was terrible, and on the 24th hour the doctors decided to do an emergency C-section,’ he said.
‘We had planned for a natural birth so it was a shock but because the doctors thought they were going to lose Nini and possibly lose Nakita, they went straight into an emergency operation.
‘During these 24 hours, we continued to talk to Nakita, communicate with her about what was happening and ensured that she was comfortable.
‘The moments after birth and when the nurses presented me to Nakita, I just continued the dialogues that had already been going for nine months, I felt I had just reconnected with a lifelong friend. We have been best mates well before birth.’
Although during both pregnancies there were a lot of things out of Nini and Daniel’s control they said they managed to at least have control over communication
Nini explained that for her the hypnosis was an adventure and gave her excellent tools to help get her back on track during the pregnancy while she was experiencing discomfort.
‘I experienced a lot of stress during the first pregnancy and almost lost Nakita but by using those hypnosis tools it allowed me to be able to communicate with her and tell her that I was sorry to put her under so much stress,’ she said.
‘I told her how much we loved her and wanted to meet her in the future so she felt welcome.’
Nini said she noticed the effect of doing the hypnosis on her babies straight away as she would instantly feel a sense of relief and happiness.
She explained that all feelings of stress and any concerns she had would disappear and she would gain a sense of fulfilment of being a mother.
‘We have seen how different our kids are since the day they were born compared to a lot of other kids. They rarely cry or whinge and are very easy to look after,’ she said.’
‘They both have a very high EQ when they integrate with people and we believe because the hypnosis we did during both of their pregnancies eliminated the stress and discomfort of them being in the womb it has made both Nakita and Caesar independent and outgoing.’