My best friend raped me because I rejected him

A woman has revealed how her best friend raped her after she rejected him.

Becky Bailey, now 25, from Grimsby, met Jordan Paddison when they both worked as nightclub promoters, and was surprised when he admitted he’d developed feelings for her. 

She thought he’d accepted that she didn’t feel the same, and they continued spending time together as friends. 

But two days later, Jordan preyed on Becky after she went to bed in his spare room ater watching a film together.

In October 2014, Jordan, now 27, was convicted of raping Becky and was jailed for four years with two years out on licence.

Now, Becky has waived her anonymity in a bid to urge other rape victims to report their attackers, after Jordan raped another woman on his release from prison.

Becky Bailey, now 25, from Grimsby, met Jordan Paddison (pictured together) when they both worked as nightclub promoters. They became close but he raped her when she rejected his romantic advances

Becky, pictured on her wedding day, suffered flashbacks and trauma after the attack

Becky Bailey, now 25, from Grimsby, met Jordan Paddison when they both worked as nightclub promoters (pictured together, left). They became close but he raped her when she rejected his romantic advances.  Becky, pictured right on her wedding day, suffered flashbacks and trauma after the attack

Jordan unexpectedly confessed his feelings for Becky in a Facebook message, and she thought he'd accepted it when she told him that she only saw him as a friend

Jordan unexpectedly confessed his feelings for Becky in a Facebook message, and she thought he’d accepted it when she told him that she only saw him as a friend 

Becky, a stay-at-home mother, said: ‘Jordan was my best friend and I trusted him with my life.

‘But that night, he hurt me in the worst way possible. He’s a monster.’

In March 2013, Becky met Jordan, also from Grimsby, at a nightclub where they as worked as promoters.

Becky says: ‘Jordan was so funny and had me in stitches constantly. Every shift we chatted non-stop.

‘We were both so outgoing and loved to party, we were practically the same person.’

Jordan Paddison, now 27, pictured in 2013 when he raped Becky as she slept in the spare room at his home following a movie night

Becky said she had lots in common with Jordan and counted him as her best mate, but wasn't interested in him romantically

Jordan Paddison, now 27, pictured in 2013 when he raped Becky as she slept in the spare room at his home following a movie night. Becky said she had lots in common with Jordan and counted him as her best mate, but wasn’t interested in him romantically

From then on, Becky and Jordan became inseparable.

Becky says: ‘We loved to order takeaways and watch films together at his place most weekends.

‘Usually I’d head home afterwards but sometimes I slept in his spare room.

‘I confided in Jordan about my relationship troubles too. We were best mates.’

But months later, in August 2013, Jordan had a confession.

Becky says: ‘Out of the blue, Jordan messaged me, telling me that he was in love with me.

Becky, now 25, was horrified to discover Jordan had raped another woman after being released from jail on licence, having served two years for the attack on her

Becky, now 25, was horrified to discover Jordan had raped another woman after being released from jail on licence, having served two years for the attack on her 

‘I was so shocked, I didn’t see it coming. I felt bad because I only loved him as a friend.

‘I quickly told him I didn’t feel the same. Thankfully he took it well and we continued chatting as friends.’

Two days later Becky visited Jordan’s house for a film night, and they watched the film Casper and drank cider together. 

‘It was a fun evening,’ she recalled. ‘Afterwards, Jordan went to bed while I slept in his spare room.’

But four hours later, Becky woke up to a strange sensation.

Becky Bailey, 25, pictured on a night out with friends in summer 2013, when she was raped by her friend Jordan Paddison

Jordan Dyer, 25, of Croxby Avenue, Grimsby, pleaded guilty to rape while out on licence and was jailed in March 2018 for another four years at Grimsby Crown Court

Becky Bailey, 25, pictured on a night out with friends in summer 2013, when she was raped by her friend Jordan Paddison (left). Jordan Dyer, 25, of Croxby Avenue, Grimsby, pleaded guilty to rape while out on licence and was jailed in March 2018 for another four years at Grimsby Crown Court (right)

Becky says: ‘I opened my eyes and saw Jordan on top of me. My heart stopped.

‘His trousers were pulled down and so were my pyjama bottoms. I realised he was raping me.

‘Seconds later, he jumped off me and pulled his trousers back up. Then he fell asleep next to me on the bed. I couldn’t believe what had just happened.

‘During the next few hours, I wanted to escape but I was terrified I’d wake him and he’d attack me again.’

Hours later, Jordan woke up and left the room like nothing had happened.

Becky says: ‘I pretended not to remember anything and got my stuff together.

‘Then, Jordan walked me to my bus stop, chatting away like normal. I stayed silent, feeling sick.

‘We said goodbye to each other and I rushed onto the bus.

Becky said the attack left her depressed and she had to drop out of college

After the attack, the teenager suffered nightmares about being attacked in her sleep

Becky said the attack left her depressed and she had to drop out of college. After the attack, the teenager suffered nightmares about being attacked in her sleep

‘As soon as I got home, I burst into tears and told my nan everything.

‘She was devastated and urged me to report it.’

Becky Bailey, 25, pictured on a night out in 2013

Becky Bailey, 25, pictured on a night out in 2013

The next day, Becky went to the police station and reported Jordan.

She says: ‘I handed in my pyjama bottoms from that night. Then I had swabs taken. I felt so numb.’

Later that day, Jordan was arrested.

Becky said: ‘After that, I had nightmares about Jordan every night.

‘I ended up dropping out of college and became really depressed.

‘Jordan’s face flashed in my mind constantly, it was horrible.

‘I couldn’t believe my best friend could do that to me.’

In October 2014, Jordan Paddison, 27, of Lord Street, Grimsby, pleaded guilty to one count of rape against Becky at Grimsby Crown Court.

He was jailed for four years with two years on licence.

But after serving two years, Jordan was released and swiftly changed his name to Jordan Dyer.

Not long after, he raped another woman while out on licence.

In August 2017 Jordan Dyer, 25, of Croxby Avenue, Grimsby, pleaded guilty to rape.

The following year, in March 2018, he was jailed for another four years and one month at Grimsby Crown Court.

He was also given an extended licence of four years.

Becky says: ‘When Jordan was jailed for raping me, I was relieved he couldn’t hurt another woman.

‘Then years later, I discovered he raped someone again. I felt sick to my stomach.

‘He is clearly a twisted monster who thinks he can take whatever he wants.

‘Now, I want to urge other survivors of rape to report their attackers.

‘You can help protect women by putting these monsters behind bars, where they belong.’

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