Ashley Madison Australians confess to starting secret affairs due to coronavirus pandemic stress

Unfaithful people have confessed the startling reasons behind why they struck up secret affairs during the coronavirus pandemic – including ‘self care’, ‘boredom’ and ‘having something to look forward to’.

More than 80,000 Australians have signed up to infidelity website Ashley Madison between January and September, with an average of over 300 signing up per day.

And new research titled ‘Love Beyond Lockdown’, conducted by the dating service, found cheaters are deeming an affair as a way to save their marriage.

Unfaithful people have confessed the startling reasons behind why they struck up secret affairs during the coronavirus pandemic (stock image)

Unfaithful people have confessed the startling reasons behind why they struck up secret affairs during the coronavirus pandemic (stock image)

Key signs of the ‘serial’ cheater 

* They are harder to detect because they have mastered their craft

* They go out of their way to tell you that their ex was insecure and that they have friends of the opposite sex

* They get defensive when you ask about their night

* They will confess their undying love for you and in the same breath suggest you get help as you are ruining the relationship with your insecurities

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Key signs of the ‘once off’ cheater 

* They will tell you they love you a lot more but not show it

* They will have moments of guilt and buy you unexpected gifts

* They will take you to nice places but the conversation is stifled

* They put uncharacteristic distance down to being ‘stressed at work’

* They daydream a lot

 

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Despite an increase in divorce filings reported around the world as a result of a global lockdown, the data found ending a marriage was the last thing on the members’ minds.

In fact, a whopping 92 per cent of members disagreed with or aren’t even considering the statement ‘I will file for divorce following social distancing, and their infidelity is to thank for that.

‘Historically, we know our members aren’t interested in exiting their marriage, and we’ve found that the same can be said even now when tensions are higher than normal and divorces seem plentiful,’ Paul Keable, chief strategy officer for Ashley Madison said. 

‘We conducted this research to learn more about what an affair – whether virtual or in-person – during a pandemic means to the people having one, and to show that marriages can actually survive in this kind of environment.’ 

The report found unfaithful people don’t turn to their partner in times of uncertainty and stress, they look outside of their marriage.

During lockdown, married people report feelings of boredom (49 per cent), isolation and loneliness (30 per cent), frustration and anger (29 per cent), worry and fear (24 per cent), and anxiety and overwhelm (24 per cent). 

Cheaters have come to learn that having an affair during a pandemic is something to look forward to (34 per cent), a great distraction (23 per cent), and means they have someone in a similar situation they can talk to (14 per cent).

During lockdown, married people report feelings of boredom, isolation and loneliness, frustration and anger, worry and fear, and anxiety and overwhelm (stock image)

During lockdown, married people report feelings of boredom, isolation and loneliness, frustration and anger, worry and fear, and anxiety and overwhelm (stock image)

The findings uncovered cheating during lockdown made 47 per cent of members feel ‘sexual’, 45 per cent ‘excited’ and 44 per cent ‘desired’ – but the benefits run deeper than just ‘feeling sexy’.

Up to 32 per cent of members feel ‘appreciated’, 30 per cent feel ‘relaxed’, 28 per cent feel ‘confident’ and 19 per cent feel ‘acknowledged’.

While most members cheat primarily for sex, others reaped the ‘additional personally therapeutic benefits’, which are especially helpful during the unprecedented situation and can make them more ‘patient’ and ‘tolerant’ of their situation at home.

When asked to share their biggest pet peeves while stuck at home, 58 per cent of members said their spouse has not initiated any sort of sexual intimacy during lockdown.

Unsurprisingly then, 75 per cent of cheaters are having less sex than usual or no sex at all with their spouse and 41 per cent have become less attracted to them.

For 53 per cent of members, lockdown has been the most time they’ve ever spent with their primary partner, and not having their sexual needs met at home is the reason 64 per cent have been having affairs during the pandemic. 

Additionally, 76 per cent have essentially given up on trying to revive their sex life with their spouse, and 74 per cent are unlikely to stop having physical affairs once the pandemic has passed. 

Can cheating actually SAVE a relationship? 

Australian sex therapist Matty Silver says it can, if the underlying issues which caused the affair are resolved in a honest and collaborative way.

While she doesn’t condone infidelity, Ms Silver says there are times when cheating can strengthen a bond if those involved are truthful about what’s happened and work through the problem together.

She says that delving into the reasons a partner has strayed can be painful, but doing so can uncover reasons a relationship may have failed – and what can be done to repair it.

Statistics show extramarital affairs are common in Australia, with figures revealing 70 per cent of all marriages experience at least one affair.

Ms Silver, who is the author of Sex Down Under, shared tips on coping with the revelation that your partner has been unfaithful.

* Throwing a partner out of the house after you find out about cheating is never a good idea, especially if there are kids involved.

* Once you have found out, calm down and tell as few people as you can.

* People do not often cheat because they intend to hurt their partner – rather they just feel under-appreciated or crave intimacy.

* Try to understand an affair and how it happened. This can help to provide clarity and give answers to the questions a couple may feel are unanswered.

* Try to deconstruct the affair, rather than assigning blame.

* Get to the roots of where the infidelity started, and make decisions on your relationship going forward.

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Ashley Madison Australians confess to starting secret affairs due to coronavirus pandemic stress

Unfaithful people have confessed the startling reasons behind why they struck up secret affairs during the coronavirus pandemic – including ‘self care’, ‘boredom’ and ‘having something to look forward to’.

More than 80,000 Australians have signed up to infidelity website Ashley Madison between January and September, with an average of over 300 signing up per day.

And new research titled ‘Love Beyond Lockdown’, conducted by the dating service, found cheaters are deeming an affair as a way to save their marriage.

Unfaithful people have confessed the startling reasons behind why they struck up secret affairs during the coronavirus pandemic (stock image)

Unfaithful people have confessed the startling reasons behind why they struck up secret affairs during the coronavirus pandemic (stock image)

Key signs of the ‘serial’ cheater 

* They are harder to detect because they have mastered their craft

* They go out of their way to tell you that their ex was insecure and that they have friends of the opposite sex

* They get defensive when you ask about their night

* They will confess their undying love for you and in the same breath suggest you get help as you are ruining the relationship with your insecurities

Advertisement

Key signs of the ‘once off’ cheater 

* They will tell you they love you a lot more but not show it

* They will have moments of guilt and buy you unexpected gifts

* They will take you to nice places but the conversation is stifled

* They put uncharacteristic distance down to being ‘stressed at work’

* They daydream a lot

 

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Despite an increase in divorce filings reported around the world as a result of a global lockdown, the data found ending a marriage was the last thing on the members’ minds.

In fact, a whopping 92 per cent of members disagreed with or aren’t even considering the statement ‘I will file for divorce following social distancing, and their infidelity is to thank for that.

‘Historically, we know our members aren’t interested in exiting their marriage, and we’ve found that the same can be said even now when tensions are higher than normal and divorces seem plentiful,’ Paul Keable, chief strategy officer for Ashley Madison said. 

‘We conducted this research to learn more about what an affair – whether virtual or in-person – during a pandemic means to the people having one, and to show that marriages can actually survive in this kind of environment.’ 

The report found unfaithful people don’t turn to their partner in times of uncertainty and stress, they look outside of their marriage.

During lockdown, married people report feelings of boredom (49 per cent), isolation and loneliness (30 per cent), frustration and anger (29 per cent), worry and fear (24 per cent), and anxiety and overwhelm (24 per cent). 

Cheaters have come to learn that having an affair during a pandemic is something to look forward to (34 per cent), a great distraction (23 per cent), and means they have someone in a similar situation they can talk to (14 per cent).

During lockdown, married people report feelings of boredom, isolation and loneliness, frustration and anger, worry and fear, and anxiety and overwhelm (stock image)

During lockdown, married people report feelings of boredom, isolation and loneliness, frustration and anger, worry and fear, and anxiety and overwhelm (stock image)

The findings uncovered cheating during lockdown made 47 per cent of members feel ‘sexual’, 45 per cent ‘excited’ and 44 per cent ‘desired’ – but the benefits run deeper than just ‘feeling sexy’.

Up to 32 per cent of members feel ‘appreciated’, 30 per cent feel ‘relaxed’, 28 per cent feel ‘confident’ and 19 per cent feel ‘acknowledged’.

While most members cheat primarily for sex, others reaped the ‘additional personally therapeutic benefits’, which are especially helpful during the unprecedented situation and can make them more ‘patient’ and ‘tolerant’ of their situation at home.

When asked to share their biggest pet peeves while stuck at home, 58 per cent of members said their spouse has not initiated any sort of sexual intimacy during lockdown.

Unsurprisingly then, 75 per cent of cheaters are having less sex than usual or no sex at all with their spouse and 41 per cent have become less attracted to them.

For 53 per cent of members, lockdown has been the most time they’ve ever spent with their primary partner, and not having their sexual needs met at home is the reason 64 per cent have been having affairs during the pandemic. 

Additionally, 76 per cent have essentially given up on trying to revive their sex life with their spouse, and 74 per cent are unlikely to stop having physical affairs once the pandemic has passed. 

Can cheating actually SAVE a relationship? 

Australian sex therapist Matty Silver says it can, if the underlying issues which caused the affair are resolved in a honest and collaborative way.

While she doesn’t condone infidelity, Ms Silver says there are times when cheating can strengthen a bond if those involved are truthful about what’s happened and work through the problem together.

She says that delving into the reasons a partner has strayed can be painful, but doing so can uncover reasons a relationship may have failed – and what can be done to repair it.

Statistics show extramarital affairs are common in Australia, with figures revealing 70 per cent of all marriages experience at least one affair.

Ms Silver, who is the author of Sex Down Under, shared tips on coping with the revelation that your partner has been unfaithful.

* Throwing a partner out of the house after you find out about cheating is never a good idea, especially if there are kids involved.

* Once you have found out, calm down and tell as few people as you can.

* People do not often cheat because they intend to hurt their partner – rather they just feel under-appreciated or crave intimacy.

* Try to understand an affair and how it happened. This can help to provide clarity and give answers to the questions a couple may feel are unanswered.

* Try to deconstruct the affair, rather than assigning blame.

* Get to the roots of where the infidelity started, and make decisions on your relationship going forward.

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