Lockdown precautions haven’t meant a dry spell for all singles during the coronavirus pandemic — but many of those who have gotten some haven’t strayed far from home.
According to Match’s annual Singles in America survey, of all the romantically unattached people in the US who reported having sex during the pandemic, one in four did it with their own roommate.
Those numbers are even higher among younger people, who are more likely to have roommates in the first place: The survey found that one third of millennials who’ve had sex in the pandemic admitted to doing the deed with their roommate, and the same can be said for 46 per cent of Gen Z singles.
Stay in: Lockdown precautions haven’t meant a dry spell for all singles during the pandemic — but many of those who have gotten some haven’t strayed far from home (stock image)
Match recently published the results of its 10th annual Singles in America study, which — unsurprisingly — provides a bit of insight into dating during the pandemic.
For the most part, singles have put bedroom liaisons on hold during these uncertain times, with 71 per cent of respondents saying they haven’t had sex at all during quarantine.
The remaining 29 per cent that enjoyed corona-time coitus weren’t entirely reckless, though, with a quarter of them keeping it in the household.
Some of them have spoken up over the course of the pandemic. At the end of March, one Redditor claimed she and her roommates had all started hooking up with one another.
‘It’s the most sex I’ve ever had in my life and the perfect quarantine activity,’ she wrote.
According to the Reddit user, who lives in a house of six, revealed in a very risque post on the site that relations between her and roommates began with one drunken night that involved all of them in the same room, however the romance then continued throughout quarantine.
‘No one could pretend it didn’t happen so we didn’t pretend,’ she wrote, describing the inter-roommate hook-ups as the ‘perfect quarantine activity’.
In April, a 28-year-old woman penned a quarantine sex diary for Slate in April during which she detailed how she embarked on a sexual relationship with her roommate in order to overcome the loneliness she was feeling in the earlier weeks of lockdown.
‘It became clear through the fog of my fantasy that he wasn’t interested in or emotionally capable of having an end-of-the-world romance but did want to hang out and have sex with me at night,’ she explained of their casual hook-ups.
Stats: According to a Match’s survey, of all the romantically unattached people in the US who reported having sex during the pandemic, one in four did it with their own roommate
In May, a Now Magazine reader asked Dan Savage if it was OK to ‘take the plunge’ and ask out his hot roommate — to which the sex columnist replied: ‘If there was ever a time when you could approach a non-related adult with whom you live to see if they might wanna f*** around, now’s the time.’
And Men’s Health published a whole pros-versus-cons article about whether people should have sex with their roommates,
Still, those who have taken the plunge and had mid-pandemic sex have been mostly keeping their numbers down: 16 per cent of singles only had sex with a single partner during the pandemic.
Meanwhile, five per cent had two partners, three per cent had three partners, and five per cent had four or more partners.
To make up for lost loving, 16 per cent of singles said they have masturbated more frequently since March.
The survey also took a look at overall dating trends.
There have been some upsides: For one, 63 per cent of participants said they are spending more time getting to know potential partners, with 58 per cent saying that they’ve shifted toward more ‘intentional dating.’
Over two thirds said they are being more honest with potential partners, and 60 per cent are considering a wider range of people as potential partners.
Looking for love: The survey also found that people are being more intentional about their dating
Safety: People are spending more time getting to know one another, and many are insisting on masks and meetups
That means a bit less focus on looks, with 61 per cent of Gen Z and 49 per cent of millennials saying they’re worrying less about physical attraction.
In fact, over half of the app daters Match surveyed revealed they are prioritizing finding a relationship more now than they did before the pandemic.
In some cases, though, the stresses have caused relationships to end: Over a quarter of respondents broke up with an ex during lockdown.
When it comes to in-person dates, there are some new rules: 21 per cent of singles are asking dates about their social distancing practices before meeting, and 20 per cent are insisting both parties must wear masks.
‘Prior to 2020, no one expected that singles would consider a date’s willingness to wear a mask,’ Dr. Helen Fisher, a biological anthropologist and chief scientific advisor to Match,’ said in a press release.
‘Recent cataclysmic events have led singles to want more from dating: a desire for a relationship over casual dating; more meaningful conversations, and more honesty and transparency during a date.
‘Today’s singles want to know who you are, where you’re headed financially, and what you expect from a possible partnership.’